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Summer

Sunday, August 23rd, 2009

Yikes.  Long time no post.  Sorry I disappeared there for a while, internet.  I haven’t been reading much on the internet this summer either (in addition to not writing)…I’ve kinda managed to stay on top of facebook, but not so much friends’ blogs, news blogs, or other internet diversions.

It’s just been a busy summer.  Much as I’d love to give a full detailed replay of all of it, that’s a recipe for never finishing the post and thus never posting again.  So here’s my summer, in bullet form:

  • Proposed my dissertation, as mentioned in my last post, from mid-May.
  • Apartment hunted.
  • Went to Italy.  My advisor is an advisor to a big European project…we were supposed to be a full partner, but for bureaucratic reasons we wound up not getting any research money, but there’s money for us to travel over there.  So he brought me and another student to attend this two-day meeting in Rome.  The topic is basically exactly what my dissertation is going to be about…it’s nice that there’s a lot of interest in the topic, but it would be better if there were money for it on this side of the pond, and then lots of funding for it in Europe after I’ve graduated.  Demand for my skills would be preferable to competition…  Anyway, after the meeting Julie met me and we had an amazing weekend in Florence and an amazing few days in Rome.  I had the best pizza of my entire life, and lots of amazing pasta and gelato.  And it was gorgeous, and altogether awesome.
  • Moved.  To a lovely apartment in the second floor of a big old house, significantly closer to school for me.  Despite help from family and friends, however, it’s still not completely set up.  But we’re getting there.
  • Parents visited, then visited family in CT for the 4th of July.
  • Got a new laptop!  My little tiny windows lappie was nice for some things, but not so good for the long hours of coding, and didn’t have much processing power.  And I hate Windows.  New one is a 2.56GHz, 13-inch MacBook Pro, and it’s SOOOOOOOOOOOOO good to be back on a Mac.
  • Drove back to Illinois with my parents.  Week at home, saw my brother’s new house and 1.5 Shakespeare plays.
  • 10-year high school reunion!  Got to see many of the guys I lived with sophomore and junior year, which was really nice.  Also a bunch of my old classmates–I wish more of them had come, but as it was I didn’t get to spend nearly as much time as I would have liked with nearly as many people as I would have liked, so more just would have meant less time catching up with each person.  I was surprised at how little most people had changed, and how not-emotionally-fraught the whole thing was.  I was expecting to relive more high school emotional drama, and instead it was mostly pretty chill.  And it was nice to see that many of the social barriers that existed back then had largely dissolved (although I expect even at the time there were fewer social barriers than at a traditional high school–because we were all geeks).  It also struck me that this reunion–the 10-year–probably has the highest diversity of where people are in their lives: a few people had kids, many were still in school, a few were out of grad school, some had real careers, some were still figuring out what they wanted to do, some married, some not.  And a slightly refreshing experience at the after-party, when I looked around the condo of maybe 20 people and realized I was the only white person in the room–a not-atypical experience in high school, that would be quite atypical in my life since.
  • An all-too-brief two year anniversary celebration with Julie, just enough time for one afternoon and evening together, before she headed back to her summer gig at Bard College and I headed to…
  • Lab retreat at my advisor’s house on a lake on Cape Cod.  Beautiful scenery and lots of fun kayaking around the lake, plus awkward conversation and a little bit of discussion of reinforcement learning.  I don’t think we really made any breakthroughs, but it was a nice forced vacation.  (Although, if you’re keeping score, you’ll note that basically my entire summer was more or less forced vacation…)
  • Weekend visit to Julie in New York, but she was sick.  :-(  Still, got to see Kaaterskill Falls, a big waterfall in the Catskills.
  • I’m an uncle!  Julie’s brother and his wife are the new parents of an adorable baby girl named Olivia.  I can’t wait to meet her when they come out to the east coast in October!
  • Back at Bard a few days later for Julie’s opening-night performance, which was fantastic.  It was a huge production, and Julie got her picture in the New York Times and Le Monde!  After brunch with Julie’s dad and sister the next day, I drove up to Bumblefuck-north-of-Albany to buy a kitchen island found on Craigslist.  The distance was a pain in the ass, but the price was good, and it’s perfect for our new kitchen, which was rather short on counter and storage space.
  • My dear friend from high school Carrie arrived that night for a several-day visit.  She’d just finished a Peace Corps stint (hence couldn’t make it to the reunion), and it was wonderful to catch up with her…we spent a whole day looking at photos, and then she helped me and Julie set up the kitchen.  =)
  • I got my nose cauterized, in hopes of putting an end to my epic nosebleeds (like the 3-hour one I had in Italy).  Not a huge deal, but a slightly unpleasant procedure, and either consequently or coincidentally, I got sick for a few days right after.

Many of these things were nice, but all in all it’s been a very busy summer, with very little time to get work done, which is bad, and not at all what I intended for my summer.  It’s good school doesn’t start for another couple weeks, but still.

Anyway, that’s what I’ve been up to during this three-month silence.  I’ll try to get back in the blogging zone…

first post of the new year

Monday, January 5th, 2009

Hi everyone.  I’m back from my winter holiday routine and need to blog to procrastinate from Actual Important Stuff.  Said holiday routine was satisfying as usual, and as usual consisted of…

  • Christmas at the in-laws.  It was wonderful to see all of them, and I wish I could have stayed longer.  Xmas loot included Spore, which I have sworn not to play until I defend my proposal, and Wall-E, which we’ve already watched again, as well as a great metal water bottle that’s already seen a lot of use, and lots of other great stuff that I’m not mentioning only because I haven’t actually seen most of it since Xmas day, due to the rest of the routine.  Oh, and a wonderful surprise bit of news that I can’t divulge yet.
  • Brunch the next day with mom’s extended family.  It was nice to see all of them, and we came away with seven boxes of everyday stoneware from Grandma.  J. is stoked.
  • Dance Camp!  Which was lots of fun, as always, and really the only way to ring in the new year.
  • A few days of relaxing back at the in-laws (sadly, brother-in-law and sister-in-law-squared couldn’t stick around as long as us).

A quick check on last year’s New Year’s Resolutions:

  • Get back into shape: total fail.  Joined a gym, was doing really well through the spring and summer, totally fell off the wagon once the fall term started.  Currently weigh more than I ever have.
  • Dance more, and collect dances so as to eventually become a caller: danced a very little more than in the past year, but not enough to really get credit for the spirit of the resolution.  The latter part is going okay, but is a low-priority, long-term project.
  • Develop a good thesis topic, write and defend a thesis proposal: have the topic and a substantial outline.  Behind schedule, but significant partial credit.
  • Help elect a Democratic president and legislature: Done and done.

Now, this year’s resolutions:

  • Dance more.  Effectively a perpetual resolution every year since I was 12, because I always start the new year having just come from dance camp.
  • Defend my thesis proposal. (Two-year resolution: get the hell out of grad school.)
  • Lose weight.  I’m getting a thesis gut, and it’s gross.

And finally, a homeowning/renting lesson: it’s a good idea to turn your water heater down to ‘vacation’ when you leave for vacation.  It’s NOT a good idea to immediately crank it all the way up to ‘hot’ when you get back.  Because it overflows and pours water all over your basement floor.

Happy 2009, everybody.

thankful for in-laws

Thursday, November 27th, 2008

Julie and I drove to Gettysburg for Thanksgiving with her family today.  We walked in the door and the first thing a I saw was four pies in tin foil on the sideboard, and I think the second thing Julie’s mom said once we got in the door was “Let’s eat pie!”

Clearly, I married into the right family.  =)

The overdue, epic, illustrated new car post

Thursday, September 18th, 2008

So, about two and a half weeks ago Julie and I bought a new car.  !  By which I mean, of course, that our parents sent us money with which to buy a used-but-new-to-us car, because it’s not like we can pretend we’re financially independent adults or anything.  Anyway, it’s very exciting to have a new car, but it was a bit of an ordeal.

Actually finding and buying the car was stressful (because we had to do it fast), but not especially remarkable.  Unfortunately, the used car dealer with the car we wanted–the best car at the best price–was of the slightly slimy used car dealer variety, but I got the car checked out by an independent mechanic and held firm when the dealer tried to jack the price up on me for repairs to be made before the sale.  But I will say I hate the whole haggling game, feeling like I must take an adversarial stance against the person from whom I’m trying to make a large purchase.

Anyway, this is the new car:

It’s a 2003 Honda Civic EX 4-door, with only 38,000 miles on it.  That’s less than half as many miles, and at least a year newer, than anything else we found on the market in our price range.  Silver exterior, charcol interior.

It came with a bunch of extras, some of which are nice, some of which we could have done without.  The EX trim, which implies moonroof, ABS, and a slightly more powerful engine…those are all nice.  It came with an aftermarket keyless entry, alarm, and remote start system.  Remote start will be nice in the winter; keyless entry is nice; I’m not convinced of the utility of an alarm, but I don’t really mind having it.  However, we’ve concluded that the car was previously owned by an image-concious male, who is responsible for a couple modifications we could have done without: the spoiler doesn’t bother me; the wheels are fancy aftermarket ones, but I actually like the factory ones better…but the one we’re really embarrassed about is the blue headlights.  You know how you see cars with annoying blue headlights?  Yeah, now that’s us.

Unfortunately, since we bought the car, it’s spent more time in the shop than in our possession.  The mechanic I took it to pre-purchase pointed out to me that it had three rotational tires, which are supposed to spin in a specific direction, and that one of them was on backwards, and it was short several lug nuts.  So I asked them to fix this before we closed–but Julie didn’t notice when she picked up the car that they didn’t do it right.  Instead of just swapping the two rear wheels, they rotated them so that the odd tire was in front, causing the car to pull to the left on acceleration, and one of the rotational tires was STILL on backwards.  So I had to take it back to them and explain exactly how they needed to fix it (”put this wheel here…”).  I probably should have been tipped off that the dealer kept saying “nug lucks” instead of “lug nuts”.

It took them — I’m not exaggerating — THREE DAYS to rotate the tires.  They broke lug nuts on two different wheels trying to take them off, necessitating that they cut them off from the back.  Then they got replacement nuts that didn’t fit.  And between each of these episodes I had to drive out there (half an hour away) and wait for an hour to get the news that my car still wasn’t fixed.  The silver lining is that I got all new bolts and lug nuts out of the deal, and a new brake rotor (because cutting off the wheel can damage the rotor).  I figure this was likely to happen if I ever needed to replace the tires anyway, so I’m glad the dealership broke them themselves, while it was still under warranty.  I sincerely hope I never see that place again.

So, two weeks after buying this car, we took it to New York for the weekend to visit some friends.  We had a great time in the city, until we came back to our car Sunday night to find it looking like this:

Yeah.  Some Manhattan jackass hit our brand new (to us) parked car and knocked off the front bumper.  We had to wait TWO HOURS for the police to arrive to take the report.  Then we had to remove the one remaining screw holding the bumper on and load the bumper in the back of the car.  We drove for a while, and discovered that the liners (those black parts in the wheel well, behind where the bumper used to be) were getting blown into the tires and, um, melting, so we had to stop at a gas station and jury-rig a way to fasten them out of the way with electrical tape, and drive the rest of the way home at 55mph.

Miraculously, there doesn’t seem to be any damage other than the front bumper cover, shock absorber, liners, and some scratches on the right front wheel.  Could have been a lot worse.  Still, that’s about $1400 in damage…I’m really glad I shelled out for the lower $250 deductible on my collision insurance.  So the new car has been in the body shop all week.  We’re desperately hoping it will be ready tomorrow morning, because we want to drive it to North Carolina for a wedding, leaving tomorrow morning.

All this, and the poor car hasn’t even been named yet.  My family has a tradition of naming our Hondas with H names (I learned to drive on Harry, my parents’ Civics are Horatio and St. Hilda the Heroic Honda, my 14-year-old Odyssey van is named Homer…), so we’re considering Hermione or Hermes, but we’re open to other name nominations, whether or not they’re alliterative.  I think the aftermarket wheels and headlights give the car a masculine feel, but we’re not necessarily decided on gender.  Please suggest suitable names!

Many things

Thursday, August 28th, 2008

OK, yikes.  So, I kind of took a vacation from the internet.  Several things took place in my life in the past month or so that deserved full blog posts of their own, but they’re just going to get briefly mentioned here in list form, ’cause this blog is supposed to be a release, not something I avoid because there’s so much I need to do on it.

  • Cousin’s wedding in Ithaca, NY.  A happy occasion, of course.  Also, Ithaca is Gorges (TM).  Saw my parents, saw waterfalls, hiked through a state park named after my relatives, learned a lot of family history from my grandmother, met my other cousin’s new daughter.
  • Had a lovely beach week vacation with my in-laws.  Sand, sun, ocean, boardwalk, pizza, monkeybread, and all manner of junk food.  Very relaxing and awesome.
  • Found a nice park/reserve not far from my house, with lots of hiking/biking trails and a mountain-top view all the way to Hartford.  Immediately made me like living here better.  Hope to get back there soon on my bike.
  • Got research funding for the fall.  Yay!
  • Veepstakes.  Way back in May I started a long entry about the Obama veepstakes, but never finished it.  Obviously, this is now totally dated.  But I think Biden was a reasonable choice.
  • Am buying a car.  That is, Julie’s parents and my parents have each contributed generously to fund the purchase of a car for us, to replace Julie’s broken-climate-control Ford and to lessen the 150-500 miles/week commuting burden on my 12-year-old, 203,00 miles minivan.  (Someday I’ll be a real grown-up, able to provide for myself and my family.  Someday.  I hope.)  We found/bargained for a pretty good deal on a silver 2003 Honda Civic EX sedan with only 38,000 miles on it.  I put the deposit down on Monday, we’ll close tomorrow, and I think we’ll have the car on Friday.  Process rather stressful, but exciting to be getting a new(er) car!  Photos should appear here soon.
  • Summer is basically over.  How the hell did that happen?

Radiohead Remix: Nude Descending Staircase in 5

Friday, May 23rd, 2008

My cousin the music production wizard made an entry for Radiohead’s remix contest: he put ‘Nude’ in 5/8 time and had his wife re-record the vocals…gives it a cool jazzy feel.  Check it out!

I might not go blind

Saturday, March 15th, 2008

I saw a retinal specialist today. I was referred to him because I have a rare genetic degenerative eye disease. (In fact, it appears that my family has the even rarer adult-onset form of the already-rare condition.) Back when I was a teenager, my eye doctor at the time could see very obvious signs of the disease in my eyes. But today the specialist told me “if I didn’t know about your family history, I wouldn’t think you have Best’s.” Apparently at the moment there are only very subtle signs of the condition in my retina. Now, it’s an episodic sort of thing, so it’s not surprising that the accumulations that were visible when I was a teenager have dissipated, but the fact that they left so little behind can’t be a bad thing. I still have plenty of reason to expect things to get worse later in life, but for now my eyes look okay. So, that’s good.

To examine me, they had to dilate my pupils. I had been prepared for that to leave me blind for three days, ’cause that’s what happened to my dad and my aunt. Fortunately, it wasn’t nearly that bad for me. I couldn’t drive home, and I spent the rest of the afternoon in a mostly dark room — it hurt to look at a computer or out the window — but by late tonight I think my eyes are almost back to normal. Tired, though: you know how it feels for that instant that your eyes are adjusting to a big change in light, like when you walk out into bright sunlight, or into a dark room? Well, that’s sort of how my eyes felt for about the past 12 hours.

Julie’s Christmas present

Friday, December 21st, 2007

Julie wanted a hutch, so I got her one for Christmas. (I had to give it to her a week early, since it can’t really be wrapped, taken to Gettysburg, and put under the tree.) This is certainly the largest by volume present I’ve ever gotten her, though I still don’t think I’ll ever top the Kitchen-Aid mixer for sheer joy of receiving. I found it on Craigslist, and had to borrow my landlord’s pickup truck (thanks, Kurt!) to transport it…it was quite a production.

Julie’s Hutch

I CAN HAS TURKEY SANDWICH?

Thursday, November 29th, 2007

Julie and I went home to Normal for Thanksgiving this year. It was the first time I’d been home in 2.5 years and the first time I’d been home for Thanksgiving since high school. Flying was unpleasant, but not as bad as could reasonably have been expected, given the circumstances. We had a nice relaxing long weekend, full of good food and family. And cats. Max the giant puppycat warmed Julie up to cats a bit, I think, and slept on our bed the first couple nights. Sumi, who has always been badly behaved and a bit mean, has gotten even more vocal in her old age. She’s now 16 years old, and she still chases her tail, but I don’t know when I’ll next get back home, and I’m a little worried I won’t see her again.

Anyway, the point is this:

I CAN HAS TURKEY SANDWICH?

Sorry for the crappy quality of the photo — my camera was upstairs, so this was taken with my parents’ ancient digicam. For some reason my dad insists on shooting at 640×480 resolution. For those of you who aren’t familiar with the cultural phenomenon that is the lolcat, see here and here.

bowling!

Saturday, November 24th, 2007

Tonight Julie and I went bowling with my little brother and his girlfriend.  It was the first time I’ve been bowling in years, and it was a lot of fun.  Scott always posts his (candlepin) bowling scores, so here are mine (but these are regular, not candlepin).  First game: 187.  Second game: 136.

Scott, you gotta take us candlepin bowling sometime!